Marriage is a battle field, they don’t show you the truth of marriage on movies, if they did no one would go there.
The prelude to battle… When you date, you put on your best face, and you act so fucking perfect, that even satan himself would fall for you.
You have manners, and you love everything, you are interested in everything that other person talks about.
Promise of the fairytale life is said to each other, agreements that will never come around are stated, you are compared to their parents, ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, even their best friend’s life.
Then the courtship aka the sex… it’s great, you have nothing to lose, you want to try everything, and do it every way either one of you have heard of, and you are will to adventure out into the fantasies you once had, cause this is new, and it’s exciting and it’s going to be your new life!
The coming together on the battle field aka the Marriage…
In ah and glamor, you come together before God, your family and your friends, and make promise, empty promises to each other, about how your new life, your dream life, your fairytale will be.
You like to have friends and dinner parties, and be active outdoors, and enjoy life to the fullest and have no drama! While your adversary likes to sit and watch tv, do crafts by herself, and just sleep and play on her phone and has so much drama in her life, Jerry Springer would cream his pants, if he ever talked to her. So let the battle begin, you are wrong for not doing what you like to do, cause you aren’t being yourself, but if you go to do that, then you are wrong, cause you aren’t home with your wife and kids. You are wrong for not taking care of yourself, but if you do, you are wrong for not being home with her.
If you sit at home, she tells you, you should be out doing what you like to do, but if you do, guess what, yeap, you are wrong for not being home with her.
If you ask her to do it with you, she has headaches, stress, is too tired, and will find other things to say not to go with you. But if you force the issue, she goes and has a blast but then bitches for days about the pain she has cause she doesn’t exercise regularly.
As the battle continues for years, you find the two of you falling apart, becoming strangers, becoming enemies, where one day you will hate each other, cause you guys can’t find happy medium.
Remember those promises, how life is going to be, when it comes down to putting out on those words, you will find someone who doesn’t want to be that princess after all, she wants to be common folk, she wants to be a peasant
So while you are ready for your role as the prince, your princess is off, being something else, someone else, and if you challenger her on her words, you are changing her and you don’t love her.
Welcome to the battle of Marriage! It’s not everything it’s cracked up to be!